So, let’s say I have a friend, and she is around 17 and is going to be a senior in high school, and there’s this guy, and he just graduated and is going to college out of state. She knows that there is probabaly nothing that’ll come out of it, but she feels inclined to tell him how she feels. Would it be ridiculous if she did? Would it be a good idea, or just weird (because he’s leaving)? suggestions?
First of all, congratulations on making it to your senior year in high school! This is a HUGE accomplishment and I promise you that your senior year is the most fun!
Now let’s get down to business: I ABSOLUTELY think that your “friend” should tell this college boy how she feels. If you think about it, she really has nothing at all to lose. If she tells the guy that she likes him and he confirms that he likes her back, he’ll be the prince and she’ll be the princess. And it will be a love story if he just says yes. (How’s that for a little Taylor Swift quote?)
On the flip side, if your “friend” tells the guy that she is interested in him and he confirms that he is not interested in her, he goes off to college (out of state somewhere) and ends up failing some of his freshman year classes. This is the case because clearly he’s an idiot for not liking your “friend” in the first place.
Your “friend” on the other hand moves on and ends up having the time of her life being that cool senior girl that she is. She’ll end up being the captain of the varsity cheerleading squad AND get asked to go to prom with the hottest boy in school. By the time she gets crowned as Prom Queen at the end of next year, she will have completely forgotten about that stupid college boy who showed no interest in her the year before.
In all seriousness, Dean always advises her readers to be honest with their feelings. If your “friend” doesn’t say something, she’ll never know what could possibly come of it. Look, there is no guarantee that it will work out between your “friend” and this guy. None at all. But this doesn’t mean that she shouldn’t at least try.
I told my best friend that I liked him a few months ago and he stopped talking to me all together. Am I upset that I told him my feelings? Not in the slightest. I know now that it wasn’t meant to be between us. Since my confession to him, I’ve moved on and I now realize that there are WAY better catches out there for me anyway. And this is the God honest truth.
So tell your “friend” to talk to this guy. She has nothing to lose…except maybe her voice. (This happens sometimes when you are nervous and have a big confession to make.)
Wish your “friend” all the luck in the world for me! And let me know how it goes.
Lots of love,